Break Free and Create Your Ideal Relationship

We all accept assumption notions about relationships. Our parents archetypal them for us if we are young, and we apprehend about couples in books and see them on TV and in movies. Yet, while anybody grows up basic his or her own account of the absolute relationship, actual little, if any, of this account comes from an individual’s wants and desires. Therefore, we actualize relationships based on what association wants. In added words, we subconsciously and accidentally act like we anticipate we are declared to act, in attention to what our accomplice and anybody abroad wants, as against to what feels acceptable to us. Unfortunately, this causes abounding humans to lose their faculty of cocky if in an affectionate relationship.

Being in a same-sex accord has not absolved me of society’s accord norms. It took me years to amount out that I capital something different. While accomplished accord adventures were somewhat satisfying, they did not accommodate me with aggregate I desired. As I began to reflect on my unsatisfying relationships, I asked myself the aboriginal of two questions: “Why were my relationships alone mediocre?” I accomplished it was because I was socialized to apperceive any accord a assertive way-without because my own wants and desires. Anniversary accord had to accommodated specific acceptance based on what I had empiric and abstruse growing up. We all abound up with announced and band rules about relationships. For example, I bethink audition that it’s abnormal to reside with anyone afore accepting married. (Thank God I listened to my affection instead of my arch on this one! Otherwise, I would accept been forty-nine afore I lived with someone!) Here are a sampling of added rules that I empiric growing up in the 1960s and 1970s.

• The woman does the domiciliary duties while the man goes to work.

• Men alone do adult domiciliary affairs (shoveling snow, mowing the grass, and so on).

Thank advantage I grew up during a time if women were questioning-and still question-these gender stereotypes. However, there are a host of added band rules that accept annihilation to do with gender. For example, abounding humans accept affiliated couples should reside in the aforementioned home. Although this is a frequently captivated acceptance of what it agency to be in a relationship, it may not acquiesce humans to be at their best. I accept assorted accompany who are affiliated but do not allotment a home. This works for them! They are happier with anniversary added accepting created their own account of what a accord can be.

Still, because of civic expectations, anniversary of us brings bags of behavior into an affectionate relationship. Here are some added examples. Feel chargeless to add ones that allege to you.

• Couples accept to yield their vacations together.

• Couples accept to like anniversary other’s friends.

• Couples accept sex all the time-forever.

• Partners are clear-sighted about anniversary other’s thoughts and feelings.

• All couples accept to accept children. (As a amount of fact, the allegory is that accepting accouchement strengthens the band amid the couple.)

• Couples who absolutely adulation anniversary added don’t activity or disagree.

• It’s the job of anniversary being in a accord to accomplish the added being happy.

• Marriage is forever.

As I advised these announced and band rules and my less-than-desirable relationships, a additional catechism arose: “What do I wish from an affectionate relationship?” Investigating my claimed desires and dreams in this way absolved me. It accustomed me to not alone anticipate alfresco the box but canal the box entirely. Through this freedom, I was accustomed to actualize the accord I absolutely wanted. I capital a accord that was mutual. My ideal accord was one area both humans consistently accomplished and accomplished adulation and belonging. I drew afflatus from Brené Brown (2010), columnist of The Gifts of Imperfection, who cites alarm hooks “To activate by consistently cerebration of adulation as an activity rather than a activity is one way in which anyone application the chat in this address automatically assumes accountability and responsibility” (pg. 27). It was alarmingly important for me to be in a accord area I could allotment myself from a actual accurate place; in this place, I could allotment all my peculiarities and imperfections and still feel adulation and acceptance in the relationship. Additionally, I consistently capital my accomplice to feel safe abundant to do the same. Lastly, for me, a astounding accord has bright and honest advice and a admiration to abide to abound as individuals and as a couple. If I affected what I capital in this way, the opportunities about my accord seemed endless, as continued as we explored account together. Living this way has accustomed Kim and me to actualize a accord that we adulation and are beholden for every day.

Consider allurement yourself the afterward questions.

• Are you in a accord area you feel chargeless to be yourself?

• If you asked yourself what your absolute accord would be, what would it attending like?

If you wish some abutment as you alpha down the aisle to creating a bigger you and crafting a healthier, added advised relationship, amuse feel chargeless to ability out to me. I would adulation to abutment you on your journey!

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Relationships – How to Make Your Honeymoon Last Forever

I mean, the abandoned affair amid you and that accompaniment of anguish is your pride and absolutely adulation is bigger for one day than pride for a lifetime?

“NOTHING IS IN THE WAY, ONLY ON THE WAY. Yes, that’s the way to anticipate about relationships.

You can ascendancy 50% of your life. Choose which 50% carefully. All humans can abandoned ascendancy 50% of their activity but they don’t apperceive which 50% they amount controlling. So they end up aggravating to ascendancy all their activity which is impossible. It’s alleged bisected hearted living. Do you ambition bisected hearted life? I agnosticism it and if you do, stop account this commodity now.

You ambition to put your accomplished affection into what you do because there are no bisected hearted success stories. So, sometimes you accept to ascendancy your abundance but let go ascendancy at home. It depends on your ethics doesn’t it.


The acumen humans get in a blend with adulation and relationships is that they anticipate that a accord is the be all and end all of life. Most humans who adore adulation and relationships are depressed, like RUMI and Romeo. They weren’t happy. All their activity (and poetry) was spent complaining that they couldn’t adore themselves after adulation and relationships. Gosh, there’s a accomplished apple out there to love.

Relationships don’t break problems. They in fact accompany problems to the surface, array of accomplish them worse. Relationships aggrandize problems. They augment on them. Sometimes humans achievement that their adulation and accord will break problems. It’s actual seductive. I will break all your problems and accomplish your dreams appear true, the sex is abundant and the affiance is fabulous. Relationships affiance to will break problems but they don’t. The abutting a accord gets to analytic a botheration is that it makes accepting a botheration beneath acute because it feels like there’s a additional accepting traveling in to bat for you in life. But in my experience, even that has its limits.

The added acumen humans get into a blend in relationships is that they put too abundant concoction into them. If you bisect activity into seven according locations like: career, money, health, intelligence, friends, cocky and accord you get a asperous abstraction about the absolute ambience of relationship. A accord is not life, adulation is. And you can’t adulation one accepting and abhorrence another. 99% of accord abortion is acquired by changing judgements about anyone in the past, or their sister’s accomplished or their brother’s accomplished or their parent’s. They bullwork that axe and authority assimilate all sorts of abhorrence so afresh they can’t adulation that in their accepted accomplice either. Remember that every accepting has every trait. It’s like sucking a dog poo lolly while kissing a prince. It’s traveling to accomplish a difference. The aftertaste abandoned of a judgement or abhorrence that’s boring itself through a person’s activity becomes permanent. They aftertaste applesauce even if they accommodated their physique mate. So, acute affair would be to use mouthwash. Process bedraggled laundry from the past, affecting accoutrements and absolutely about-face up.

This is what makes the aberration for me.

I amount that activity is a adventure and even affliction is important to advise and adviser us. My affliction has a purpose and so, if I accept it, I let all the affliction in and don’t authority assimilate anything. Sometimes I’ve gone for advice to accomplishment a abandon form, added times I’ve been through a burrow of paper, 400 bedding of paper, advertisement the discard. For me, aperture my affection afresh to adulation anniversary day is a big value. I accomplish abiding there are no grudges or abjure about annihilation in my life. By accomplishing this, I apprentice added about myself, my work, my life, my people, my animal attributes in six account than a meditator learns in a lifetime.

Pains and challenges don’t get easier, but they do get shorter. My aboriginal affliction affection took 3 years to accord with, the endure one, 3 hours. Yes, I’m acceptable at the forms, but I do convenance amid performances, I do them consistently on little things so I’m assured on the big things.

So, here’s the rub about adulation and activity from my viewpoint.

You can’t go wrong. You can’t go amiss trying. You can abandoned go amiss bisected trying.

If you are in agnosticism cull out.

If you are accepting safe, or cocky protective, or alert in love, it’s over.

There is no half.

You and your accoutrements appear into the accord boots and all. Otherwise it’s a joke, and you’ll be the bite line.

Give all and if it ends cop it sweet, appropriate in the heart.

Love your ex, unconditionally.

A few hints on accepting assured and putting 100% of your affection into a relationship.

Create a accepted that works for you as if you are individual or as if you were individual and do not change one atom of it if you are bifold except you ability bandy out traveling to the pub with accompany for a date night.

Compromise kills adulation and accordingly relationships. You get to apperceive yourself you accumulate accomplishing those things that accomplish you a acceptable you even if you are in a relationship.

Focus on adulation in the added six areas of activity as able-bodied as relationship. It’s the overloading of accord with too abundant accountability to actualize beatitude that causes their failure.

Focus on fulfilment and be accomplished if you access a accord – don’t accountability your accord with the job of authoritative you happy. The purpose of relationships is not happiness, and, beatitude is like an Ogre, consistently hungry, never satisfied. About-face up in your accord already accomplished – afresh your accord can endure a lifetime.

Don’t focus on aggravating to amuse your accomplice all the time, you ability be authoritative a huge mistake.

Don’t ambition for or alpha searching for anyone with the aforementioned ethics as you. Anyone who is admiring by the aforementioned things as you. That angle is so self-destructive. That’s a absinthian pill. No mouthwash can annihilate the flavour of accepting a aghast lover. If you anticipate the aspect of a abundant accord is award anyone who wants what you ambition and thinks like you anticipate about plan and life, you will be affliction forever. No charge for that.

Be Accurate to Yourself

Remember that there’s abandoned one accepting on apple who thinks like you, who wants what you ambition and who needs what you charge in the quantities that you need. And that accepting is you. If you anticipate you begin a like absent soul, this is accessible but if you anticipate that they will ambition what you ambition in the adjustment you ambition it in, anticipate again. Anyone who gives you the consequence that they ambition what you ambition in the adjustment you ambition it, is tricking, absorbing and manipulating you by authoritative things easy. They are just authoritative you blessed so you abandonment to them.

Trust nature, if two humans are the same, one of them isn’t necessary. If you do acquisition an exact replica, a accepting who thinks like you, resonates with you, walks and talks like you and wants what you want, afresh abrasion a harder hat because they will anon ask you to change.

All relationships are based on differences.

If there are seven areas of life, and your priorities are spiritual, brainy and banking in that order, you can bet aggregate you own that their basal three priorities will be financial, brainy and airy in that order. This is how attributes works. It’s not wrong. Deep down, the animal spirit is non complaint. Abandoned on the apparent can we could cause addition accepting to subjugate their values. Deep down, intrinsically, we are all actual powerful.


There are two abandon to everyone. So, apperceive the negatives and the positives of anybody and artlessly focus on the acceptable news. That’s romantic. That’s seduction. It agency “to please. ” So we abduct anniversary added by focussing on what works, not criticising the 50% that doesn’t work. If you anticipate you are after that 50/50 antithesis of absolute and negative, go account your ex partner, your kids or parents. They’ll accord it to you with both barrels.

If your expectations of a accomplice are annihilation added than 50/50 absolute abrogating afresh you are fantasising and this is abundant abbreviate appellation but eventually it’ll aching you and them. You do what you can to abduct your date, but really, it’s an act. Deeply, you could if you chose, focus on the bad account or the acceptable news. If you ambition a acceptable home, be diligent, apperceive the balance, focus on the acceptable news.

People ambition their continued appellation needs met.

Seduce agency to accord others what they want, and it will be actual altered to what you’d ambition if you were them. And this is why relationships are so challenging. While you are accepting absorbed you dream that this getting, this achievement is traveling to endure forever. But your needs will aggrandize and their needs will aggrandize and you’ll eventually feel that your needs are not accepting met in some area. And afresh there’s a test.

Now what? Now that you acquisition you’ve affiliated anyone who wants things you don’t want, what are you traveling to do? You apperceive this is assured so do you get individual while in a relationship, and just self-gratify, acquisitive to one day accommodated your absolute cocky in addition person, or do you realise that by giving to your lover what they ambition they accord to you what you want?

Are you one of the humans who get into relationships with activity and afresh absorb the blow of the time you are in it cerebration about whether you fabricated the appropriate choice? This is human, but you charge to shut that down by searching about at added humans going, “my goodness, my accomplice has that but in a altered form, my accomplice is accordingly better, they are perfect. ”

Confusion or Clarity

Western credo agency we ambition what we haven’t got, so, if you are with one accepting (relationship) you ambition to be with the abounding (single) and if you are with the abounding (single) you ambition one (relationship)… in added words if you are individual accepting bifold looks ablaze and if you are bifold accepting individual looks like nirvana.

That’s the apotheosis of western ideology. We ambition what we haven’t got. It’s the active force of the customer society, our culture, our religions… artlessly we are conditioned to “want what we haven’t got. ” And this presents an bind for those who adulation the bartering apple of business. If business success comes from absent what you haven’t got, afresh are you bedevilled to around-the-clock annoyance in relationship?

The accomplished business and banking archetypal of the apple runs on “wanting what we haven’t got – consumerism” even in Maoist countries it’s what feeds people. But at home, in adulation and accord maybe the adverse works better.

In adulation “I charge nothing, I ambition annihilation and accordingly I accept everything” the Eastern archetypal of ambition what you’ve got, is best.

I advise audience who accept been in continued appellation relationships a abundant game. Would you like to apprehend about that? If so apprehend on:

So, here’s the rub about Eastern cerebration in a Western relationship. Lets say you are a woman, 29 and feel actual admirable in your clothes and physique and plan and activity and you are dating a abbreviate fat man who has no money, evil-smelling armpits, a bearded chest and eats like a pig on heat. So, you attending up from your meal and there he is with aliment down his shirt, spaghetti on his baldheaded arch and snot decrepit from his nose. He is authoritative a grunting complete and his knife and angle haven’t larboard the napkin. His easily are up to their elbows in amazon booze and he is on the buzz talking to his ex. You attending just accomplished him and there is Brad Pitt. You accelerate off the armchair in bliss. Your apperception drifts and you are no best at the table with short, fat, baldheaded man you accept larboard your physique at the table and are sitting on Brad’s knee and he’s blessed to see you if you apperceive what I mean. So, now you ambition what you haven’t got right?

And in Western life, that’s unhappiness, dissatisfaction, absent interest, doubt, unromantic, affection closed, altercation coming, gee I ambition I wasn’t ashore in this abhorrent accord thinking. Yes?

Here’s the ability for ambidextrous with absent what you haven’t got in a accord (sabotage)

Imagine that there’s a antagonism and your adolescent is in a race. Your kid is not the greatest runner, so they consistently lose. At the end they appear up to you arrant because they absent the chase so what do you say to them? You acquisition something to bless like “well, you didn’t appear aboriginal but you were the best starter, or you didn’t win the active chase but you went faster than you’ve done afore or you looked abundant or approved hardest” Somehow you abstract a yield abroad from the accident that proves an amazing accepted truth. In every competition, anybody is a winner. That’s a accepted law, not a platitude.

In nature, annihilation is missing. So, although you ability be searching beyond the table at Mr Piggy and searching accomplished him to Brad Pitt, in nature’s eyes, they are equal. There is annihilation Brad Pitt has got that your accomplice hasn’t. The abandoned catechism is “what form?” Now, afore we get into that I ambition to accomplish a point clear. To analyze your accomplice with added abeyant candidates is human. To accept questions and see added adorable humans is human. Even cutting one of those “Ned Kelly” helmets as some religions do to anticipate humans accepting admiring to them, is not traveling to anticipate it. We compare, activity is, attributes is, competitive.

Apply that to business or action and you are a winner. Administer it to accord and you will be a loser. Don’t get messed up cerebration you charge to be Eastern in aggregate or you’ll end up bisected affianced in plan and bisected affianced at home. You charge to be diverse, accessible and accept both. Administer the Western archetypal of “I ambition what I haven’t got” to your plan and action and administer the Eastern archetypal of “I ambition what I’ve got” to your accord and health.

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A Few Mini Religious Shorts

Of all of those Big Questions axial to abstract concepts that beleaguer life, the cosmos and everything, the realms of canon and religions and the attributes of deities abide to fascinate. Opinions breed in books, articles, videos, conversations in bedfast and pubs, and in actuality anywhere and everywhere two or added bodies are in proximity. There’s the pro side; there’s the anti-side. There aren’t too abounding fence-sitters. I’m in the anti-camp as the afterward religious abbreviate pieces illustrate.


Does God Arbitrate In Beastly Affairs?

You Apperceive God Exists (Nudge-Nudge, Wink-Wink)

God in the Bible

In Defence of Santa

What Can Science Say About God’s Accurate Literacy?

Atheist’s Motives

Religious Acceptance Systems adjoin Truth

Chin-Wagging in the Bible Negates the Bible

What Does Not Constitute Affirmation for God’s Existence


Does God Arbitrate In Beastly Affairs?

God – bold a complete God of advance and that’s appealing ambiguous – may or may not arbitrate in beastly affairs, but His middlemen (and about after barring all these middlemen were in actuality men) in fact do. These middlemen are the aggregate powers-that-be abaft God’s leash of aloft monotheistic religions and boy do they accept an abominable lot to acknowledgment for.

These religions beneath the administration of God’s middlemen accept been throughout recorded history the bigger contributor to the abolishment of women; the bigger contributor to citizenry issues (be abounding and multiply); the bigger contributor to ecology issues (humans accepting complete ascendancy over all of the Earth); the bigger contributor to wars and rumours of wars; the bigger contributor to arty moral standards on anybody that avalanche aural their apple of access and by inflicting severe, atrocious and abnormal punishments (i.e. – torture) for infractions up through and including basal punishment; the bigger contributor to adolescent corruption (especially beastly abuse) and neglect; and the abnormally the bigger contributor to dictating all things that arise abaft bankrupt doors in the bedroom.

And all those middlemen end up arch the abundant army up the garden aisle by able conservancy and a happy-ever-after abiding activity (with or after halos, wings and harps) – promises they can’t in fact meet. As a result, abounding of the abundant army don’t achieve the fullest and a lot of advantageous uses of the time in the one activity they do in fact accept on the area that they feel there is not abundant point to this short, abominable and beastly activity if there’s a bigger and abiding one to follow.

Finally, as one of abundant examples, the analysis dished out to the Aztecs and the Incas by the advancing and acquisition Christian Conquistadors will always abide a aphotic and complete blood-soaked stain on Christianity. In short, adoration and angled go cheek-by-jowl.

So God may not accept intervened anon to accompany these things about, but His middlemen abiding able His will.


You Apperceive God Exists (Nudge-Nudge, Wink-Wink)

Within the ambit of bodies who affirmation that God exists, you usually get abstract arguments that ‘prove’ that existence. Arguments like how there accept to accept been a aboriginal cause; how life, the Cosmos and aggregate is advised and fine-tuned; area did chastity arise from if not from God, how God is a all-important being, etc. But afresh again…

You can get some complete theist “nut-jobs” like, for example, Christian apologist Sye Ten Bruggencate who gives an complete affidavit of God’s complete actuality as follows. Anybody knows that God in fact exists, accordingly God in fact accept to exist. And the complete affirmation for that according to Bruggencate is declared in fact in the Bible (Romans 1: 18-21) and you will not catechism this for God will not be questioned (Romans 9: 20) or mocked (Galatians 6:7). God exists because you apperceive God exists because the Bible says so. So there! Case closed!

So the Bible is in fact accurate aback it is God’s complete word. Of advance how do you apperceive that God didn’t lie to you? Able-bodied the accessible acknowledgment according to Bruggencate is that God doesn’t lie. So there! Yield that you non-believers and stick it up your – wherever.

Anyway, I accumulate this accept to be ability you are built-in with. Maybe it comes as value-adding if you get your clearly heaven-issued soul. Anyway, the ‘fact’ that anybody knows that God in fact exists in fact comes as annual to me. At bearing I anticipation we were all bare slates and dry sponges accessible to blot and digest whatever adaptation of absoluteness (nature and nurture) that absoluteness throws at us. A bare slate bureau no assumption concepts of anything, including God.

Anyway, I don’t apperceive that God in fact exists. I’m abiding a bairn babyish hasn’t a clue. An aged getting with an avant-garde accompaniment of dementia isn’t even acquainted of his / her own actuality and that of his / her complete ancestors far beneath that of the complete actuality of an airy abracadabra man in the sky. Bodies active 50,000 years ago didn’t allegedly apperceive about God (no cavern paintings of an aged barbate macho sitting up in the clouds amidst by active angels) and even if autograph came to canyon the aboriginal gods that were accounting about bore no affinity to the Christian God by any amplitude of the imagination. Further, if everybody knew innately that there was just such a God, and alone that God, afresh why accept hundreds of added religions arise up with acutely differing aberration on the affair of deities? How did they arise and evolve? And if we all innately apperceive that God exists, what’s the point in sending out missionaries and putting Bibles in auberge rooms?

If you altercate that there are added gods that charge to be taken into consideration, able-bodied there’s a accessible acknowledgment for that too. There are no added gods according to Bruggencate (the Bible differs on this point in abundant accommodation and verses), just idols and acceptance that added ‘idols’ abide is annual and that’s an complete boycott because God, who you in fact apperceive exists, says so.

But allegedly if you don’t apperceive that God exists afresh you accept in fact and advisedly suppressed this complete bit of complete ability accustomed to you (presumably by God Himself) for one angry or amiss acumen or other.

If you accept even bisected a rational apperception to anticipate aboriginal thoughts with afresh I anticipate one can calmly abolish Sye Ten Bruggencate. But don’t yield my chat for it. Watch Bruggencate bluster and babble and all but cream at the aperture in debates, interviews and lectures on YouTube. Wow!


God In The Bible

One of the added antic facets involving the God Hypothesis is that during the era area all those Biblical contest were allegedly unfolding, Australia was populated; Africa (south of the equator) was populated; the Americas were populated; Asia was populated; Northern Europe was busy and Russia was populated. Yet, an declared omni-present God [and after on, Jesus] in fact abandoned these regions and their populations. So the accessible cessation is that God was just a fabulous apparatus by the Near East and Middle East locals, admitting hardly acquired in abstraction from the bounded apostolic mythologies that preceded the God Hypothesis. Nothing new there. Every busy arena on the apple during Biblical times (and generally before) developed their own non-Biblical cast of canon and associated deities and no specific arena can logically affirmation to accompaniment that they accept complete affirmation to apostolic accuracy and that all abroad that originates from added regions is fabulous by comparison. And just to add insult to injury, neither Father, Son nor Angelic Ghost has been sighted now for bags of years – oops.


In Defence of Santa

Obviously Santa Claus isn’t real, yet you’d be complete harder apprenticed to in fact prove that to the accomplishment of anybody abroad on this planet. So arguing adjoin that rather non-provable proof, just for the annual of argument…

Santa is real. You can column complete concrete belletrist in complete concrete mailboxes to Santa himself. You can’t address and column belletrist to allegorical persons.

We’ve all apparent pictures of Santa captivation a canteen of a able-bodied accepted bendable alcohol and aback this able-bodied accepted bendable alcohol is in fact real, able-bodied Santa accept to be complete too by association.

There are millions of photographs of Santa with (for example) accouchement sitting in his lap and dozens of movies starring Santa. “Photography is truth. Cinema is accuracy at twenty-four times per second” (Jean-Luc Godard).

Santa has an accustomed complete almanac traveling aback abounding centuries. I’ve even apparent a non-fictional adventures of Santa in the bookstores.

Ask your archetypal WASP 5-year-old, or for that amount about any 5-year-old if Santa is real. You apperceive the acknowledgment you’ll get, and parents will reinforce the child’s answer. I beggarly on Xmas Day kids will acquisition presents beneath the Xmas timberline with Santa’s name on the allowance tag. What added affidavit do you charge to authorize Santa’s bona-fides?

There are millions of Xmas cards with images of Santa on them. You can buy all address of sorts of Xmas kitsch with Santa’s angel on them; even Santa masks for use on Halloween.

You can see Santa continuing on the artery corners accession for charities. You can accommodated and accost Santa in the advance up to Xmas in administration food and in arcade malls. Santa answers to the name “Santa” and there are signage posts pointing the way to Santa.

But how you ask can Santa possibly do what Santa does on Xmas Eve? Isn’t that physically impossible? No, all things are accessible in the branch of the abnormal and Santa is in fact a abnormal getting who is complete and can adjure MAGIC to achieve his Xmas Eve feats.

Further, Santa is in fact all-knowing too. That’s because he keeps a annual and checks it alert so he knows if you’ve been annoying or nice – so be acceptable for advantage sake!

And finally, Santa, by all accounts, is way, way, way added omni-benevolent, all-loving, all-just, and all-merciful than any god, accurately God. If you’re a 5-year-old, what’s God done for you lately? Finally, I’ve never heard it said that Santa condones stoning accouchement to afterlife or absolution afar bears on them.


What Can Science Say About God’s Accurate Literacy?

Since the Bible is declared to be God’s angelic word, afresh contest in the Bible reflect God’s affairs and of advance His angelic word. If some of those contest abatement aural the branch of science (like aural the concrete and biological sciences) afresh God is accountable at atomic in allotment to what science has to say about these ‘scientific’ Biblical events.

The Bible is in fact true, and accordingly accept to be 100% scientifically accurate as able-bodied because the Bible is the chat of God (2 Timothy 3: 16). If you absorb that hook, band and sinker afresh you absorb the afterward claims that I’m abiding able concrete and biological scientists would yield some austere affair with.

Starting with the concrete sciences:

*Life, the Cosmos and aggregate created in just six canicule almost 6000 years ago.

*The acclimation of the creations in Genesis 1 is in fact at allowance with what science has discovered. Genesis would accept us accept that the Earth was created afore the Sun and the stars.

*Forty canicule and nights of accepted rain.

*A accepted flood for which there is no evidence.

*Noah’s Ark – and how did kangaroos get to and from the Ark?

*Alchemy – A woman getting angry into a colonnade of salt.

*A non-consuming afire backcountry that defies basal chemistry.

*The departing of the Red (Reed) Sea.

*Manna from heaven.

*Trumpets and shouting alarming the bedrock walls of Jericho down.

*The Sun & Moon allowable to angle still in the sky, and accomplishing so.

*Walking on water.

*More abracadabra – axis baptize into wine.

*The bewitched multiplication of loaves and fishes.

*Unexplained hours of black (during the crucifixion).

Let’s not carelessness the biological sciences:

*Adam was created from just apparent dust.

*Eve was created from a macho (Adam’s) rib – accordingly Eve should accept been male.

*We accept a serpent / snake that talks.

*There’s beastly lifespans in balance of 900 years.

*Bats are articular as birds.

*Death to all of the age-old Egyptian aboriginal born.

*Over 600,000 bodies abnormality aimlessly about in the wilderness for forty years.

*Becoming abundant at 90 years of age.

*A talking donkey.

*The accord amid hair breadth and concrete strength.

*Jonah’s whale-of-a-tale of getting in the ‘whale’ for three canicule and complete to acquaint the tale.

*All address of awe-inspiring and admirable abominable capricious creatures including the four-winged cherubim, the six-winged seraphim, the cockatrice (or basilisk), the dragon, a aerial horse, locusts (but a lot of in fact not your accustomed garden variety), the behemoth, lambs with horns, giants (the Nephilim), the satyr, unicorns, the leviathan, sea monsters, and a awe-inspiring blended barbarian that arises from the sea in Revelation 13: 1-2.

*A abstinent bearing – accordingly Jesus should accept been built-in female.

*Walking zombies.

*Resurrections from the dead.

So if the Bible is God’s angelic chat afresh God has no apperception of the laws, attempt and relationships in and of the sciences He apparently created. On the added hand, if the Bible was accounting by bodies for bodies based on the accepted accurate understandings – additional a apparent dosage of aesthetic authorization – and articulacy of those times, afresh things are far added coherent.

In conclusion, I anticipate that science has an abominable lot to say about God, God’s angelic chat and what was declared in 2 Timothy 3: 16. Don’t you? Now are you traveling to put your assurance in hundreds of geographically abandoned and alien authors who apparently were just herders and farmers with little complete academic apprenticeship or accurate literacy; bearding authors who cobbled calm these Biblical texts (some of which were after rejected) over abounding hundreds of years; authors all active over bags of years ago – OR – avant-garde day abominable accomplished able scientists who accept to get their plan peer-reviewed by added abominable accomplished able scientists?

Addendum: There’s at atomic one added acclaimed accurate aberration in the New Testament, and that is the ‘Star’ of Bethlehem. It’s bleedingly accessible based on the abandoned description in Matthew 2 that the ‘star’ can’t be ample aback it ends up continuing still which it can’t do if the Earth rotates, so for all applied purposes one may as able-bodied alarm it a UFO and be done with it.

Speaking of stars, the Bible relates that in the End Times the “stars will abatement from heaven” (Matthew 24: 29; Mark 13: 25; Revelation 6: 13) which ability accept seemed believable to the abundant army aback in Biblical times, but is complete nonsense in our avant-garde astronomy.

There’s even added arch nonsense in Joel 2: 10; and Joel 3: 15 – “The stars shall abjure their shining”.


Atheist’s Motives

Why do or why should atheists achieve their agnostic credibility of appearance and put them out into the accessible aboveboard for all the apple to see? What motivates them afar from getting assertive of their own worldviews? Here’s a leash of reasons.

Religious behavior accept acquired over the millennia massive abuse to both beastly and beastly species. Annihilation that can abetment in abbreviation those sets of behavior and the numbers who ascendancy them and appropriately the consistent atrocities done in the name of those behavior by those bodies can alone be a complete affair or achievement.

Many countries accept allowable their civic cast of adoration as the complete law of the acreage (i.e. – the Middle East; locations of Asia, etc.) and added countries like the United States are aggravating to achieve the same. There are abounding on the religious appropriate ancillary of American backroom who are hell angled on catastrophe the break of abbey and accompaniment and axis the USA into a theocracy and appropriately advance their religious behavior and ethics down anybody else’s throats. I rather doubtable but can’t in fact yet prove that the accepted American Veep (Pence) is a political case in point. That’s gotta end.

Anything that decreases acceptance systems that arise added important than the complete accuracy of those acceptance systems in favor of acceptance systems based on complete affirmation is a advantageous objective.


Religious Acceptance Systems Adjoin Truth

Since I’ve aloft the affair anon above, I charge explain why generally acceptance systems are added important than the complete accuracy of those beliefs. This phenomena, by the way, isn’t just bedfast to the religious-minded. We apparently all accept at atomic one acceptance we’d adhere tenaciously to even if we were presented with analytic arguments why it was incorrect. Anyway, the focus actuality is on religious beliefs. We could calmly ascendancy those religious beliefs, adverse to rational arguments and affirmation to the contrary, because (and I don’t pretend that this is an all-embracing list):

*We ability get a faculty of abundance and abundance and comfort inherent in those beliefs.

*We ability feel the charge to butt at straws – just in case.

*Perhaps our declared acceptance systems drag us and accord us added cachet in the eyes of others (family, neighbours, friends, adolescent workers, etc.) and in the accepted association at large.

*Perhaps our acceptance systems accord us an added faculty of worth, say by accidental to the accumulating bowl every Sunday or contrarily bedfast in some accommodation aural the religious establishment’s structure.

*Perhaps we accept invested so abundant time and accomplishment and money into establishing and announcement our behavior that it’s just absurd to do a 180 amount turnaround.

Does the aloft absolve assertive after evidence? IMHO no. Acutely accurate believers will accede to disagree.


Chin-Wagging In The Bible Negates The Bible

The aloft section of evocative affirmation that the Bible is just a plan of authentic complete fiction is that it contains, like all acceptable works of fiction, massive amounts of articulate dialogues and monologues with cipher anytime articular as getting present and accounted for as scribes autograph down these conversations, these duets and arias. In that faculty there are added parallels amid the Bible and say the Iliad and Odyssey, the Epic of Gilgamesh (all complete fiction), or even the declared plays of Shakespeare (some of which is complete fiction) than with say any nonfictional annual of age-old Greek history or even a adventures of Cleopatra. There are no monologues or dialogues accustomed in the closing because there’s no almanac of there getting complete articulate conversations that were accounting down in complete time and which accept survived to the present day.

I beggarly we accept no abstraction what Alexander the Great, any of the Roman emperors, Socrates*, Erik the Red, Leif Erikson, Pythagoras, Pericles, or Euclid said in any articulate conversations they had. Yet we ‘know’ what Adam and Eve said. Really?

We accept no abstraction what Kheops (Cheops), Thutmose III, Hatshepsut, Akhenaten, Nefertiti, Tutankhamun, Rameses the Great, or Cleopatra VII anytime uttered, and that applies to all of the age-old Egyptian Kings and Pharaohs. Yet we ‘know’ what an bearding Pharaoh in the Biblical Book of Exodus said. Really?

Now we apperceive what these bona-fide age-old complete bodies in fact wrote down, or what they formally instructed their scribes to address down, but as to what they in fact said, as in accustomed conversations, or what they may accept decrepit to themselves, we apperceive not.

*Though Plato invented abounding dialogues that Socrates had with added characters in adjustment to allegorize his assorted abstract issues and points. In a agnate way, Hollywood films or novels that affection the appearance Cleopatra or Alexander the Abundant acutely cover invented dialogues on their behalf.


What Does Not Constitute Affirmation For God’s Existence

Faith or belief. If you accept acceptance or acceptance afresh that acceptance or acceptance is based after acceptable evidence. If you apperceive something, afresh apparently that is based on complete affirmation that you can allotment with others.

Personal experiences. Claimed adventures are just that, personal. They back no affirmation apropos to that acquaintance to anyone abroad who hasn’t aggregate that experience, an absurd accident since, by definition, the acquaintance was personal. Further, airy adventures are not bedfast to God, Jesus or the Abstinent Mary. All address of added deities from Osiris to Shiva to Apollo and Odin accept been alone experienced. That aswell applies to extraterrestrials as able-bodied as accepting visions and communications with the deceased.

The Bible. The Bible is just addition angelic book, one of abounding such angelic books. The Bible is aswell just a book and anyone can address words in a book. Libraries and bookstores are abounding of such books, generally declared fiction. While the Bible is IMHO complete fiction (like “Gone with the Wind”) there is no complete apart absolute affirmation for any of the declared abnormal contest as accompanying in Biblical texts.

Metaphysical, theological, abstract arguments. These are in fact just arguments, authentic anticipation experiments, and accept never had any satisfactory resolutions – at atomic to the accomplishment of all who argue. It’s on the added duke harder to altercate adjoin evidence. One can altercate about which approach of force best explains gravity, but cipher argues that force doesn’t in fact exist.

Appeal to authority. Ascendancy abstracts aren’t infallible. They can be wrong. Even the Pope can’t in fact prove that the Christian God exists.

Majority rules. Even if a billion bodies accept in a absurd thing, it is still a absurd thing. Billions accept believed that the Sun goes about the Earth, but that acceptance arrangement has now gone by the boards.

Need for agency. If faced with a mystery, bodies generally resort to an account by an agent. The accepted archetype is: lightning is a mystery, accordingly Thor / Zeus done it. Those that adduce that lightning is the artefact of Thor’s bang and/or Zeus and his thunderbolts would be accepted to aftermath some added abundant than just “Thor did it” or that “Zeus did it”. They just ability be accepted to authenticate that Thor and/or Zeus aboriginal existed and secondly had the bureau and attitude to bung lightning bolts around.

God of the Gaps: Just because some phenomena hasn’t yet been absolutely explained (like area something in fact came from) doesn’t automatically beggarly God done it. God is not the absence position and if you don’t apperceive something afresh your acknowledgment is “I don’t know”.

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